TRANSFORMATIONAL STORIES​

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Helen Wang – Teacher

Country: Singapore

Thanks to Facebook, a post from October 2012 brought back memories, reminding me of someone I’m grateful for – Eric Lim. I want to thank him for bringing “Appreciating Education” into Singapore, which corrected my misconceptions about children’s education.

My son faced challenges in primary school, and my efforts to change the situation failed. Frustrated, I stumbled upon a parenting program, and it turned out to be a transformative experience. The course enlightened us, improved communication with our son, and brought consensus between my husband and me. Eric’s follow-up sessions and ongoing support ensured practical implementation.

Now, my son is grown, I’m a Chinese school teacher, applying what I’ve learned to inspire my students. Eric’s impact continues, guiding me in resolving misunderstandings with my 20-year-old son. Gratitude fills me as I reflect on this transformative journey.

Victor – Management Top Executive

Country: Singapore

Parenting is a journey. Unfortunately, it is one that cannot be charted clearly on a map that guides us towards nurturing an ideal model child. We assumed parenting is a cookie cutting process; learning from other parents, mimicking their steps to guide and nurture our children. Our journey became exhausting and strained our family relationships.

Reflecting on our journey, we sought areas for improvement. It was during our elder child’s higher primary school years that we were introduced to the Appreciating Education programme through Eric and connected with a supportive community of parents. This programme revolutionised our perspective on love and taught us the importance of self-love as a foundation for nurturing our children. We learned to appreciate and affirm our children’s efforts and attitudes, fostering stronger bonds and communication within our family.

Through ongoing support from fellow parents, we witnessed positive transformations in our family dynamics. The success of our parenting journey lies in our conviction to internalise these teachings, leading to self-transformation and ultimately, happier children.

Tricia – Multinational Marketing Director

Country: Singapore

When my children were under 10, daily frustrations drove me to enrol in parenting courses. Homework battles, annoying behaviours, and constant sibling fights seemed overwhelming, making me fear losing control during their teenage years.

The parenting courses and workshops transformed my perspective; I realised the need for personal change and adjustment of my mindset and expectations. I learned to appreciate my children’s strengths, enjoy their company, and understand their thoughts. I learned to speak less and listen more, making me a more patient, calm, and appreciative parent.

Now, in their teens, my children are loving, independent, sensible, filial, and emotionally healthy. They confide in me, and our close-knit family is my most fulfilling investment. I owe this transformation to Eric’s parenting courses, for which I am eternally grateful.

Nancy – Han Teacher

Country: Singapore

The most unfortunate relationship in the world can be someone treating you as the enemy when you are doing your best for them. Bad parent-child relationships are exactly that. More than ten years ago, that was the relationship between my husband and I and our son.

The Appreciating Education programme, introduced by Eric and Grace, transformed our perspective, reshaped my understanding of education, allowing me to understand to let the child become himself, not to shape the child into what the parents expect. Eric’s “Parental Pit Stop” gatherings provided a supportive platform for parents, resulting in positive changes at home. Our son earned a government scholarship for university in Japan and now excels in finance.

Reflecting on those days, what was once gloomy transformed into clarity and brightness. I participated in the Appreciating Education programme with the purpose of changing our children, and found that it was us who ultimately changed. Changes in children are just a by-product of the whole process. Gratitude extends to the teachers, Eric, Grace, and fellow parents who shared this transformative journey. I also thank my children, for, as the saying goes, “Children are angels sent by God to help their parents grow”!

Sun XiaoYing – Homemaker

Country: Singapore

First of all, I would like to thank Eric and Grace for bringing Appreciating Education into Singapore for many families. Back in November 2011, amidst heated arguments with my husband about our son’s academic struggles and internet addiction, we discovered Eric’s courses.

The insights from lessons and case analyses were enlightening, leading to a transformation in our family dynamics. Despite our son’s challenging journey through Junior College, where he faced criticism and a school transfer, we navigated it together. Embracing a unique approach, we encouraged our son to treat homework as a game. I suggested he could get a few like-minded online gaming friends and try to use part of the gaming time to do homework together like playing game.

Overcoming obstacles, our son excelled in Singapore Polytechnic, secured a government scholarship, and is now in his Year 2 at Nanyang Technological University. Treating our children like old bullock carts while they are potential Ferraris, we, as parents, often push them too hard. The key lies in offering timely and appropriate guidance. Remarkably, my husband, who once underestimated our son, now speaks of him with immense pride. The sibling relationship between our children, what’s once difficult, has transformed, with them now enjoying movies and meals together.

Recognizing the pitfalls of pursuing results blindly, I’ve embraced valuable concepts like “Focus on sowing, not harvesting” and “Life is a marathon, not a 100-meter run.” These wisdom phrases emphasise the importance of the process, advocating for positive energy. I hope that Eric can continue to make the concept to take root here and help many thousands of families.

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